No matter how laid back you are, or how many times you’ve been on first dates before, it’s natural to hope that this will be the last first date you go on if you’ve found the right match for you.
The hope and expectation coupled with the emotional vulnerability that comes whenever you risk rejection means that you should make provisions for after the date too.
Not all first dates will lead to second dates, and if your date doesn’t then don’t be deterred.
So, you met a cool person who you’re about to go out with. That said, there a few fairly concrete dos and don’ts to keep in mind when hanging out with someone totally new—just remember that it’s all about making a solid first impression to land a second date with someone you really like.
This is important both in terms of personal safety and making sure you’ve got someone to talk to about what happened.
That way it won’t go round and round in your head leaving you feeling a little clueless!
So, how do you deal with the anxiety that inevitably comes with first-date territory?
If you just want to get to know them a little better, say so and suggest a second date.
This first contact is the time to give that encouragement, whether you’re a man or woman. The worst that can happen is that they don’t feel the same way – but at least you’ll then be free to move on and date other matches.
If you don’t want to see them again wait until they make contact with you and then politely say thanks, but no thanks.
Plus, won’t it suck to not be able to walk a few blocks on a nice night because your heels are too high? There’s not much to say here without sounding like a preachy parent, but keep this in mind: Having to be carried home by someone you barely know isn’t fun (nor is slurring your words or crying at the dinner table).
Yeah, we know the whole “fashionably late” ideology still exists, but on a first date, you’ll make a better impression if you show up on time. Sure, a cocktail or two can be fun and loosen the mood, but know your limits.