Another set of behaviors are also context dependent, but are even muddier.
Impersonating an ex in a message and modifying or deleting a partners profile have fewer potential scenarios where they aren’t moving into harmful or controlling territory.
One-in-ten teen daters (10%) have sent messages to others pretending to be their boyfriend, girlfriend or ex.
Again, context is important here – is it a joke everyone finds funny?
There are few differences between boys and girls and younger or older teens in reporting these acts.
The experiences we asked about in our study fall on a continuum from highly context-dependent to almost always controlling or abusive.
However even as this question was asked in the context of other questions about potentially vengeful behaviors, “a very large number” is open to interpretation, and could be either abusive, or part of mutually appealing communication between romantic partners.
Whether through immaturity, lack of knowledge or malicious intent, teenagers, like adults, occasionally experience controlling or troubling behaviors as part of their romantic relationships.
Overall, teens were more likely to report engaging in these more contextually dependent experiences.
Other behaviors, such as impersonating an ex in a message or modifying or deleting their account, are less clear.
Pressure to remove exes and give up passwords, making threats as well as having online information used against them are about as likely to happen to teen daters both during and after a relationship.
Fully 31% of teens with dating experience report that a current or former partner has checked up on them multiple times per day on the internet or cellphone, asking where they were, who they were with or what they were doing.