We're glad we can understand and support each other more and god now I just wish I can find someone like that irl who's a guy.
I know I sound pathetic but I can only imagine myself getting into a relationship with a guy who has depression. I have severe anxiety and I get super depressed sometimes. I remember my first encounter with the dark arts of psychiatric medication. I'm glad you're getting help and hope you will be able to manage your anxiety and depression too.
while it's nice that they can understand what you're going through, sometimes you both end up having lows at the same time, and end up feeling shittier because you can't really support your partner, and they can't really support you. I was fantasising about understanding each other and creating a warm, comfortable space for each other to be depressed in, alone together. Well, it's definitely possible to make it work...
Relationships should (EDITed out) be based on positive things, because if they negatives made you come together then you need the negatives to stay together.It's just a fantasy, I know it would probably be unhealthy and impractical.Most of us have wanted a SO to look after us or maybe look after during depression, but for many reasons it may be a toxic relationship. Pickup artists would learn about it and use it as a "hunting ground" for depressed women with low self esteem.I don't want to drag him with my 'negativity'.I have a close (girl) friend who just recently got depression and anxiety and although I hate that she's going through the same thing as I did (still am, getting better though), I've never felt connected with someone irl and she felt the same too.It did take awhile for him to understand what depression is like for me, but at this point he is very accepting & supportive. A "normal" person dating a depressed person is gonna be a one-way emotional relationship.So, you can find someone without depression who will "get" you; there just may be a LOT of bumps in the road to get there, which is, of course hard for those with mental illness (and their partner). I think that's way less healthy, because the depressed person is gonna probably end up driving the non-depressed person away.Mostly because when we know the person we are going to meet has gone through what we have, we'll know that they can understand if we're anxious or looking dull.Ehhh dating someone who is depressed while you are also depressed isn't super great....It would only serve to make vulnerable people more vulnerable. Besides that, while the idea sounds innocent enough, there are too many problems.Even outside of the PUA idea, the amount of codependency that would develop from relationships formed there would be unhealthy.