But that’s OK with her —it’s just the place they’re in.“I think if you’re in the kind of place where you can be romantic about it …
[that’s] great, it’s all sappy ‘I love my boyfriend, we’re going to have such cute babies,’” she said.
then there’s the other side where you take other stories that maybe do have to do with chemistry and love and biology but you look at them through an economist’s lens.”People make better decisions when they can take a sober look at their probabilities for success in marriage, she said.
It helps to peel back the moral and social norms so heavily attached to love and sex and see how people are actually behaving. Adshade presents a raft of economics-based research about love and sex that, at least on the face of it, appears quite counterintuitive.
But is it a good thing to think of spending time with your kids as work?
”While arranged marriages in other cultures put the financials on the forefront, Ms.
Freer to marry, freer to divorce, freer to have sex when and with whom they like with fewer consequences, freer to cohabitate without getting married, freer to remain single, freer to pursue open relationships or polyamory.
is all about how the modern dating scene has been shaped by sexual economics, a theory which sees human mating as a marketplace.
)“If we rely on our instincts and hunches we’re often wrong,” she said.Rae Lemke and Craig Sprung have been dating for three years, and ‘When are we going to get married?’ has been a question on their minds for the last two.Today, economists are studying a pragmatic view of love, sex and relationships that strips emotions away and considers not just financial incentives and disincentives but also economic principles like weighing opportunity costs.Armed with vast amounts of data thanks to the rise of online dating, a growing number of economists are studying the economic forces that drive decision-making around love and sex at a time when the educational gap between men and women continues to widen, women have more bargaining power than ever before and the Internet has dramatically changed the way we partner up.Frances Woolley, an economist at Carleton University who researches the economics of gender and has made presentations on the Economics of Sex, maintains that it’s interesting to look outward at what the data are saying about people’s behaviours in the bedroom and in their family life, but emotions and happiness and connections play too large a role to make this economic thinking very useful on a personal level.“I think an economic lens has a lot to say about it, but I’m not sure it improves your marriage or personal relationship,” she said.“If you’re thinking about your relationship with your children, when you go and look after your kids, you’re invested in their human capital and it’s hard work.Lemke hoping to go back to university to train as a midwife, something is running interference with the power of their love: Money.“It would be really nice to be that romantic – I’ll just run away with you and it’ll be great,’” Ms. But the longterm financial benefits of getting an education feels more important than paying up for a celebration of love —at least right now.“You just hear about people having a 0,000 wedding and it sinks in after awhile — holy, are my friends expecting me to send out save the date cards?Adshade points out, using the example of travel — a hotel room still costs as much if two people are in it. She thinks Canadians are indeed thinking more pragmatically in the age of the Internet in which people can essentially shop for potential partners, denoting specific preferences and characteristics to turn a thick market into a thin one.While hunting for someone who’s 5’10 and makes between ,000 and 0,000 could be called picky, the online dating realm has merely made looking for a date more experiential. We’re looking for something more.”Shoshana Grossbard, a professor of economics at San Diego State University who studies the economics of marriage and relationships, thinks the generation of people in their 20s and perhaps even 30s tend to consider love and sex in economic terms moreso than older generations.“Part of it is because many of them are children of divorce so they’re less inclined to just blindly adopt what their parents or grandparents have done,” she said. The traditional lifestyle is being lost, opportunities postponed – people are getting married later, having children later.” A major factor, of course, is the tough economy and the mounting demands that come with it — more education in order to compete in the job market, for example. Lemke says she’s trying to save money for her wedding, but worries even the “moving timeline” of marriage to next summer will shift even farther into the future.