Here are ten rewards of waiting Many teens who have already been sexually involved make the mistake of thinking, "It's too late for me to change even if I wanted to." But the truth is that all of us, no matter what our age, have the freedom at any point in our lives to make different choices.Teens need real-life stories of young people who were sexually involved once but have made a fresh start.It's the emotional or psychological dimension of sex that makes it distinctively human.Our entire person — mind, body, and feelings — is involved.I wish someone had been preaching abstinence in my ear when I was in high school. Being aware of them can help a young person make and stick to the decision to avoid premature sexual involvement.That's not to say we should downplay the physical consequences of uncommitted sex. Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) — and there are now more than 20 — can rob you of your health and even your life.In all cases, the emotional repercussions of sexual experiences are not to be taken lightly.A moment's reflection reminds us that emotional problems can have damaging, even crippling, effects on a person's ability to lead a happy and productive life.
The new sexual permissiveness was leading to empty relationships and feelings of self-contempt.
What makes the difference is the relationship within which it occurs.
Sex is most joyful, meaningful, and fulfilling — most emotionally safe as well as physically safe — when it occurs within a loving, total, and binding commitment. Sexual union is then part of something bigger — the union of two people's lives. "The Neglected Heart: The Emotional Dangers of Premature Sexual Involvement." American Educator (1994) revised January 2007. D., is a psychologist and educator who has been called "the father of modern character education." A professor of education emeritus at State University of New York, Cortland, he is the founding director of his university's Center for the Fourth and Fifth Rs (Respect and Responsibility) and author of nine books on moral development and character education. He has also written Raising Good Children and co-authored Sex, Love and You.
That's why sexual intimacy has potentially powerful emotional consequences.
Why is it so much harder to discuss sex and emotional hurt — to name and talk about the damaging psychological effects that can come from premature sexual involvement?