Fellas, what does modern chivalry look like to you?There are people who believe, strongly, that the Olde World concept of chivalry is an anachronism that has outlived its time, seeing it as a tool for perpetuating the idea that women are helpless and need protecting by men.In the dating space, a man who’s chivalry comes hand-in-hand with respect for the woman he is trying to woo is an immensely attractive prospect.Chivalry is celebrating her promotions as much as it is opening a door.The dream date will be keen to meet a woman's family and friends (77 per cent) and let her use his phone when her battery runs out (76 per cent).They will pick her up for a date (73 per cent), know how she likes her tea and coffee (72 per cent) and only phone after midnight to chat, not for a booty call (69 per cent).Since when is pulling out a chair or opening a door heroic or honorable? ” That’s how I feel about these guys that tout their chivalry in their online dating profile.
More manners modern women want include sending attentive texts during the day (80 per cent) and turning phones off during dates (78 per cent).In the age of the selfie and the self-obsessed, when pornography is warping gender relations in a way that is not in women’s best interests (or men’s for that matter), and dating apps mean you can dial up sex with a swipe of the finger, romance is under siege.But with this new sexual revolution in full swing, one thing has become clear: there is nothing sexier than a well-mannered man. Being well-mannered, and not just to women, but other men too. Chivalry started as a code of conduct for medieval knights.Another common complaint is benching, where women are strung along to keep them as back-up to better prospects.As a result, 73 per cent of single British women say that their dating experiences make them fear that chivalry is dead.Traditional acts of chivalry once thought polite and noble like helping a partner put on her coat or pulling out a chair for her to sit down are now considered out-dated by women, researchers found.Women may no longer want a fantasy 'knight in shining armour' as they strive to be strong and independent but they still desire simple acts of courtesy from their dates.“Also, a lot of men here will get up and walk you to the bathroom and wait for you so you don’t have to walk through the bar/restaurant/hotel alone.” While I prefer not to have anyone waiting outside the bathroom for me, I do have some rules for Western men.None of these things are terribly hard – not nearly as hard as being a medieval knight.The survey of over 500 single women of all ages was carried out for dating site Match's dating expert, Vicky Pavitt commented: "What the research shows is that women are starting to lose faith in modern dating."From breadcrumbing to benching, it can be easy to feel disenchanted, but there are still plenty of single men who wouldn't dream of ghosting a date and are simply looking for the right person." Match has created giant 3D models of seven of its "most eligible" male members, who women can contact.