“We are free to date who we choose regardless of color or race.
Interracial relationships exist legally in this country due to the love of a white man for a black woman, so much so that he took it all the way to the Supreme Court.
Black woman need to value themselves more, open their eyes and recognize their power as desirable women.” This commentor refers to the landmark Loving v.
Virginia case, which did in fact make interracial marriage possible in the United States. Today, black women are still the least likely to date interracially, let alone marry.
One of my male relatives brought home a date for Thanksgiving who could have been Barbie’s twin sister.” She assures readers: she has nothing against these women. Instead the background history that has rendered black women undesirable as partners needs to be brought to light. “Romantic attraction is subject to the larger social forces of racial prestige and stigma that swirl all around us, and in this environment, black women are losing out,” she states.
“I struggle to agree with anything said in this article, even though it appears the author has backed up her position with statistics,” was the take of Xylemic.Solutions to the “single black woman” problem As depressing as these realities might be, it was not Miles’ intent to rehash the same issue of the “single black woman” problem that has been discussed in the news repeatedly.She wants to get to the bottom of a problem that renders her fellow black women without anyone to take home for the holidays.As a single black woman myself, these questions remain important, even if they have been dissected a thousand times.It’s only natural that the holidays, a time for reflection and family, would bring them up for consideration for the 1,001st round of consideration.Let me tell you another thing about the article that’s troubling, it’s not necessary.I can tell you that the majority of Black women do not care who you date. Will you encounter people who inquire why you’re with a white woman instead of a black woman?Readers discuss interracial love People have blamed the glamorization of white women and degradation of black women for these trends, while some in the comments for Miles’ article blame black women for being standoffish.“In my personal experience, I find many black women doing the ignoring, rather than being ignored,” stated the commentor kiwiprosecutor, a self-described white man.“The driving force is,” Miles writes, “…my awareness of all of the (straight) African American women — beautiful, smart, good women, some of them my own family and friends — who might not have a honey to bring home this Thanksgiving holiday because they cannot find a date, even as rising numbers of eligible African American men will be wooing white women.” Is the solution to date and marry interracially as Miles has done?Or for black women to seek mates overseas as others in the comments have suggested?