"Things may be good now, but think 10 years down the road," he says. " Wooten's own father was 17 years older than his mother."My dad always loved sports, but he was not physically able to engage with me in sports," he says. If you hit it off because you both love rock climbing, consider if that's something that will be part of your relationship for years to come." 3. Another concern Leah had was whether she could submit to Travis as a spiritual leader.And while we could exercise wisdom in thinking through some of the unique challenges we might face, we could also trust Him with the details. He explains that during his years at a Bible college, he gave his desire for a spouse over to the Lord and asked Him to determine who his wife would be.After God prompted Travis to say the exact words Leah had been praying for, the answer seemed obvious.Before I began dating Kevin, a woman I worked with in children's ministry frequently asked me about him, seeing potential from the start. " "Ah," she said lightly, waving her hand, "My husband's four years older, but he acts younger.Age is just a number." As Kevin and I broached some tough topics in conversation (at the advice of wise counsel), something occurred to me.He had graduated from college two months earlier, so we were both in the workforce fulltime.Even though Kevin didn't have as much life experience as I did, our daily lives basically looked the same.
When Kevin learned I was eight years older than him — by seeing pictures of my 30th birthday party on Facebook — first he didn’t believe it (bless him!"I had surpassed him in some areas — I had been in the workforce for 12 years when we met and held leadership positions in church." I had similar concerns when I met Kevin.From our first conversation, I could tell he was very mature for his age. Once I learned his actual age, I was concerned that he might not be ready to settle down and have a family, when I definitely was.), then he decided to pray specifically for peace moving forward."My biggest question was, 'Why was she still single? "But that worry didn't stop me from getting to know her."It feels like it wasn't that long ago." When Leah, a national of Singapore, first got to know Travis, who was 10 years her junior, she was attracted to him, but "I tried to tell myself it wouldn't work because of the age difference.I fought those affections like crazy." But as an undeniable connection formed, Leah finally made a bold request: "I told the Lord, unless I hear Travis say, 'The Lord has laid it on my heart that you are to be my wife,' I will not move forward." The night before the two gave a group presentation together, they met to pray. After spending a few days trying to adjust to the fact that the handsome co-leader of my small group was seven years my junior, I had just realized that he was actually eight years younger!A question I receive often is, "How did you make the decision to date and marry a younger guy?She and Paul married anyway, and over time the difference in maturity dissipated. While I don't think it's important to adhere to an arbitrary formula when considering age in a potential relationship (interestingly, when I met Kevin our age difference was exactly this ratio), I think it can be a good rule of thumb to help you consider if your relationship is appropriate.(A 37 year old dating a 25 year old is different from a 30 year old dating an 18 year old.) I often tell people that Kevin and I met at the perfect time.